Despite a budding marriage, it could be time you and your partner have a “sleep divorce”. For the reason you are constantly sleep deprived could be laying right next to you. Snoring, fidgeting, 3 am bathroom trips and even night terrors are just some of the ways your loved one can keep you up at night.
You’re left struggling through sleep deprivation, day after day. The impact of sleep deprivation is well documented, a higher risk of obesity, heart disease and diabetes, and even a shorter life.
That’s without factoring in daytime grumpiness, irritability, and suffering relationships.
Is it, therefore, time to lay some boundaries around bedtime with your partner?
James Wilson, sleep expert and co-founder of Beingwell, explained one of the key reasons partners don’t compliment each other’s sleep.
Research suggests everyone has a set bedtime and waking hour that leaves them feeling rested.
If you are a morning lark, you’re better off going to bed in the early evening and getting up at the crack of dawn. Night owls are most alert in the late evening and feel best waking up in the late morning.
James said people may be forcing themselves to try and sleep at a time that doesn’t suit them if their partner encourages them to go to bed with them. He said: “Even if you want to go to bed with your partner because it’s intimate and where conversations often happen, it may be putting more stress on you to fall asleep at the same time as them."
James recommended couples have a “compassionate conversation” about their sleep routines. It may help to explain to your partner that while you can have downtime together, including in the bedroom, you need to “go to bed” at different times.
Meanwhile, there’s one key habit that many couples are familiar with – snoring.
Snoring can be insufferable to listen to as you lay in bed desperate for some rest.
That’s closely followed by heat (34 percent), tossing and turning (25 percent), space/duvet hogging (14 percent). To tackle uncomfortable heat whilst you sleep, director Jonathan Warren urged couples to get a mattress that doesn’t worsen the problem.
He said: “Generally speaking, a mattress with a high content of natural fillings such as wool, cotton or bamboo is often a great choice for those suffering to sleep in the heat as they tend to be cooler as well as being naturally hypoallergenic.
“Other options to consider are new generation elite gel memory foam mattresses that include a temperature regulating cool gel that adjusts with your body temperature to ensure you’re never too hot or cold during the night.”